January is the top month for filing for divorce. It’s also the top month for online dating. Although nearly half of all marriages end in divorce, new statistics reveal that couples who meet through online dating have a better chance at a successful marriage.
For those who are not so lucky, being involved in a lawsuit can be a stressful experience regardless of whether it is a divorce or a personal injury lawsuit. Although it will inevitably be difficult at times, there are some things you can do to make the process go more easily and end with a good result. Avoiding the three most common divorce lawsuit mistakes people make is a good place to start.
DON’T hire the wrong lawyer to represent you.
All lawyers are not the same. They have different levels of experience, areas of specialty and different styles. Narrow your list of potential lawyers to those who are experienced, qualified, and specialize in the area of your lawsuit. Eliminate those who merely dabble in the area of law in which your lawsuit pertains, regardless of your personal relationship with them. Then, take the time to consult with a few of the highly qualified lawyers on your list, until you find the one with whom you are comfortable with their personality and approach to your case.
DON’T engage in mudslinging.
Avoid mudslinging. Take a deep breath before responding and think about how your response will contribute to the next action in your lawsuit.
DON’T be unreasonable in negotiations.
There are many opportunities to work towards a settlement before you go to trial. Your attorney will handle the negotiations for you, but it is your case and ultimately your decision to settle. Before you begin the negotiation process, know your bottom line. Keep in mind that a negotiation is a compromise. Make a list of all the issues that are on the table to be negotiated. Rank them in importance to you. Keep what is important to you and be willing to give up what is not. Being creative in your negotiations will get you more of what you want.
If you avoid the 3 most common divorce lawsuit mistakes, and find the right lawyer, the right attitude, and reasonable expectations, you may look back one day and say, “If I knew I was going to be this happy, I’d have done it sooner.”